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Why people have problems with understanding what is love? Well, there are many different reasons for this, but the most important reason is that we believe in myths about love. We believe that love is only about actions that people make because of love or for their lovers. Partly this is true because those actions are the most visible aspect of love, and we often hear that someone did something in the name of love. But things are way more complicated than that.
Unfortunately, many people confuse passion with love when they attempt to build new romantic relationships. Those people think about love as it is something clear and concrete, but if "true Love" were something concrete, then this would be the logical opposite of "Fake Love." There is no true love because it is either love or something else between you and your partner. However, there is a tangible difference between mature and immature love. Of course, you already know all those differences if you are dating an older woman since she probably has already explained everything to you. But if this is not the case, we believe that you would like to see our top 5 signs of mature love.
1. You can discuss everything
It can be difficult for people to talk about certain topics. In a relationship, topics of conversation can range from the fact that you are angry with your colleague, to the problems in your current relationship. From who should wash clothes this week, to why you are afraid that you will die alone. The ability to peacefully talk about what is bothering you is a tremendous value. This is more than just an opportunity to express your real thoughts and ideas. This is about a sense of security and recognition.
2. You respect each other's need for private time
Mature love is not only about spending time together, but it is also about the ability to spend time separately from each other. Private time is a basic human need. When we spend time alone, we have rest and analyze different aspects and things that help us to become better. Healthy and happy couples use their time alone. Also, sometimes we need to miss our partners, for example, during their long trips alone. This helps to understand their importance in our lives. When couples manage to respect each other's need for loneliness without being tenacious or needy, demanding attention when the other cannot give it, then they know that they have mature love.
3. You understand your partner's desire to have some personal space
As in the case of private time, personal space is a basic human need. Of course, mature couples can talk about everything, but this doesn't mean that they should constantly stay together. Each person in a couple has their own time, and everyone knows what to share and what to keep with them. We all need a level of confidentiality that is valid for both our worries and our private problems. When people in couples understand each other's desire to have personal space, they make their relationships stronger, because this means that everything that they share with partners they share without problems and tension because they do it voluntarily, and this is very important.
4. Friends outside the relationship are fine
Having friends outside the couple doesn't mean that something is missing in the relationship. People are social beings, and we should not rely on one person to satisfy all our needs. That is why our relations with family, colleagues, friends, and other important people are very different. Remember, we have different relations with different people, and it is good for a couple to have separate friends outside the relationship.
5. Mutual Respect
Respect is the most important thing when it comes to having a romantic relationship. Communication is not even possible without respect. If both partners respect each other, they can cultivate it. Thu they make their relationships stronger and happier.